Editorial: What It’s Like Being A Native-American Dad With Three Asian-American Kids


August 9, 2016 - Local

by Dave Begay, Monrovia

Hello there, everyone. I’m here to teach you a little bit about a culture you probably know very little about. I want to help open your eyes to the experiences of someone very different from yourself.

I am a Native-American dad, with three Asian-American kids. And this is what it’s like to be me.

First of all, being a Native-American dad with three Asian-American kids requires toughness and patience. This is because I have a rare chronic eye condition known as ‘Amblyopia’. Basically it means my vision is often blurred in my right eyes. It makes everyday tasks like driving and using the computer incredibly frustrating. I’ll bet you never would have guessed that just looking at my skin, and the race of my children, huh?

Native-American dads like myself also deal with anger issues. Folks like me are upset that our mom left our family when I was nine to be with a Italian bellhop she met when my parents were on vacation. This experience has scarred us deeply to this day.

Being a Native-American dad with three kids also means also means I can’t do what I love most- golfing. If it were up to me, I would golf all day, every day. I think I could have been a professional golfer if I had just practiced harder and not had kids. Seriously, I was that good.

Native-American dads like me may be good fathers, but we also secretly resent our kids for ruining our golfing careers. I’ll bet you didn’t know that.

So the point is, next time you think you know what it’s like to be a Native-American dad with three Asian-American kids, ask yourself a few questions. Do you have trouble seeing out of your right eye? Do you have a number of psychological issues stemming from your mother abandoning you at an early age? Are you deluded into thinking you could have been a professional golfer if you didn’t have kids?

If your answers are no, don’t go around assuming things about people like me.

If your answers are yes, then you just might know what it feels like to be a Native-American dad with three Asian-American kids.

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